Take Charge of Your Life: Overcoming Passive Mindset and Regaining Control
True empowerment comes from taking ownership of your life. Don’t let Mars’s retrograde be an excuse for your shortcomings. Overcome a passive mindset and regain control of your life.
“It’s not the stars that hold our destiny but ourselves.”- William Shakespeare.
Do you ever find yourself complaining to someone and having them tell you that Mars is Retrograde? We innocently blame all our problems on a planet that is sitting about 140 million miles away without taking into account that it’s our own actions that got us here, not the poor planet. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all in for astrological configurations, but sometimes you need to take charge of your life and not leave it up to the poor planet to do it for you.
Failures are a natural part of life, and it’s only normal to encounter them. However, how you deal with the outcome determines the success of your future.
It’s very easy to fall for the victim mentality and see yourself as someone who comes to feel helpless, but more than the circumstances, it’s the mindset that gets you in that passive, non-active phase where you lose control of your life, and you decide to let things happen to you without making any conscious effort or real change at your end to turn things around.
In today’s article, we will explore a few points to help you overcome that passive mindset and regain control of your life.
Awareness
The first step for changing your mindset and situation is to create an honest and unemotional awareness of the problem and your response to it. Whether it’s your personal life or professional, be fully and non-judgmentally become aware of the truth of your situation. Notice the intensity of the problem; if it’s something repetitive, how often does it occur, how does this impact your life, livelihood, and well-being, and what else is being affected by this situation?
Train yourself to become mindful of when you are entering that situation again or repeating the cycle.
Evaluation
Evaluate what role you are playing in this situation. There is no right or wrong; at this point, your aim is only to exercise unbiased evluation. Who else is involved in the situation, and what role are they playing? How does this situation impact others? What are the pros and cons of this situation? Is this situation helpful in any way, or is it all bad? If it’s all bad, what are your reasons for being in this situation? What changes will occur if the situation is changed? What risks are attached to this situation, what are the options and what will a positive outcome look like?
Accountability
Once you can objectively observe how you respond to a particular situation, take accountability for your part. This can be sensitive for a few people, but remember that you can’t fix something that’s not in your control. By taking accountability, you are not only owning up to your part but also taking back control of things that you can control, i.e., your behavior and your response.
It’s easy to blame it all on the stars, others, or the situation. But deep down, we all know that we always have a choice. Sometimes, we only realize that once the time has gone by. Taking accountability is one of the best ways to find a solution to a problem.
Plan of Action
Now that you are fully aware of the situation and you can see the part you are playing in it, what actions can you take to change this situation so that it yields a more positive outcome. Plan your actions, even if they seem to be little adjustments. For example, if you are always late at work, perhaps plan to wake up 15 minutes earlier. If you miss out on your client’s inquiries, schedule 2 hours daily to respond to your emails. If your partner is always complaining about your absence, schedule time on the weekend together, or if you are in a codependent relationship, plan to spend a day by yourself doing things that are your hobbies.
The planning part requires commitment and careful consideration of resources. Start small and gradually increase your progress rather than set unrealistic goals and give up too early.
The Concrete Step
Once you are clear on what needs to be done, implement your plan by implementing the first step. The power of taking charge starts with action. Simply put, every step in the right direction brings you closer to changing your situation.
If implementing your plan requires more than one step, break down the action plan into bite-size pieces according to the timeline. Stay committed to the change and take charge of your life.
Between the things you cannot control and the ones you can, it’s always the ones you can have a lasting impact on your life. Life will always throw a few curve balls at you, but that is not because your Mars is retrograde. Instead, it’s trying to push you out of your comfort zone. It’s up to you to take that opportunity and grow out of it or forever think that the universe is against you.
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Anam Anjum
Wellness Consultant
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